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May 14, 2012

There are various types of domestic violence tactics and abuses

In an domestic violence abusive relationship, the abuser may use a number of tactics to maintain power and control over his or her partner:

Domestic Violence using Verbal Abuse:
  • Name Calling
  • Threatening
  • Intimidating
Domestic Violence using Emotional Abuse:
  • Criticizing
  • Displaying jealousy
  • Using public humiliation
  • Putting down the partner
  • Isolating
  • Dominating
  • Using the Children
Domestic Violence using Financial Abuse:
  • Controlling the money
  • Concealing joint assets or shared money
  • Keeping their partner impoverished
  • Blowing money
Domestic Violence using Physical Abuse:
  • Pushing
  • Slapping
  • Hitting
  • Kicking
  • Choking
  • Pulling hair
  • Biting
  • Using Weapons
  • Tying their partner up
  • Locking their partner in a room
Domestic Violence using Sexual Abuse:
  • Raping
  • Physically attacking sexual parts
  • Forcing their partner to perform sexual acts
Domestic Violence using System Abuse:
  • Violating restraining orders
  • Violating child custody agreements
  • Telling lies about their partner to police, courts
  • The man will strongly discourage contact with friends and family. He will insist upon a move to an area far from these people, possibly rural or remote if they are city dwellers.
Limiting involvement with others:
  • He will deny the woman access to a car, not allow her to go to school. If she is employed, he will harass her on the telephone or turn up at her workplace and cause trouble so that she loses her job.
Control of finances:
  • He will take her money, give her an allowance or make her ask for money. She will have to account for all her expenditures and will have no knowledge of the family finances.
Putting her down:
  • The man will call her names, ridicule her, imitate her, tell her she is 'stupid', yell at her, downplay her accomplishments, degrade her dignity and self-worth, make her feel useless and inferior.
Playing mind games:
  • He will deny the abuse ever happened, say 'she caused it', or make light of the abuse telling her 'she has no sense of humor'.
Using the children:
  • He will threaten to take the children away from her.
Anger and jealousy:
  • The man will get angry and jealous and accuse her of having affairs if she even speaks to another man.

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