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December 15, 2011

Investigating Child Sexual Abuse Allegations: Do Experts Agree on Anything?

For a relatively brief period of time, the argument seemed to revolve around whether children would deliberately lie about a personal experience of sexual abuse. An abundance of research has now disassembled the question when it is stated this way. It has been learned and amply documented that the issue of TRUTH when applied to children's statements is multidimensional.

Helping Battered Women

Violence is an increasing problem in our society. Police and social scientists have long been concerned with the level of violence in our streets. Juvenile specialists have noted the link between violence at home and the increased likelihood of adolescent crime. Of the adults that the courts have remanded to me for treatment, the majority have come from emotionally or physically abusive homes. Even witnessing violence can leave emotional scars as deep as being the recipient of violence.
In this social context, battered women deserve a special focus. The battered women

Guidelines for Mental Health Professionals

This article goes into detail on the best practices for screening for Domestic Violence, how to respond to a disclosure of violence, counseling and safety planning when needed.

Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence

This report presents findings from the National Violence Against Women (NVAW) Survey on the extent, nature, and consequences of intimate partner violence in the United States.

Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview

This article highlights the effects of DV on children and teens, this is only an overview but there is some great information and references here.

Domestic Violence - Clinical Overview

Background: The medical literature defines domestic violence in different ways. In this article, domestic violence refers to the victimization of a person with whom the abuser has or has had an intimate, romantic, or spousal relationship. Domestic violence encompasses violence against both men and women and includes violence in gay and lesbian relationships.

Domestic Violence Articles

Many of the stats in this section come from the National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women.

Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence

The Overlap Between Child Maltreatment and Domestic Violence Over the past few decades, there has been a growing awareness of the co-occurrence of domestic violence and child maltreatment.

Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children: Consequences of Emotional Neglect of a Child

Human relationships take many forms but the most intense, most pleasurable and most painful are those relationships with family, friends and loved ones. Within this inner circle of intimate relationships, we are bonded to each other with "emotional glue" — bonded with love.

Self-Love and Narcissism

There are two important differences between healthy self-love and malignant narcissism:

December 13, 2011

Abusive Relationships

Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. Sometimes abuse can even seem flattering; think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is insanely jealous. Maybe you've thought your friend's partner really cares about him or her. But actually excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust; it doesn't mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship.

Coping with Rape and Sexual Assault

Being raped or sexually assaulted is a very distressing experience with effects that can be long lasting. Because the majority of rapes are reported to be against women this leaflet is written from the woman's perspective. However it is acknowledged that male rape exists and the University Counselling Service will offer support to all casualties of rape. Therefore throughout this page advice and suggestions are relevant to either gender.

Causes of SI

Reasons for Self-Injury discussed.

About Posttraumatic Stress Disorder in Children(PTSD)

Victims of repeated abuse or children who live in violent environments or war zones may experience PTSD.

From victim to survivor:

The way a person handles a stressful situation, such as a domestic violence attack or rape, can vary from person to person. However, the emotions expressed tend to be similar in nature. The following is a list of emotions and feelings that tend to be present after abuse has taken place.

Parenting - coping with stress

Being a parent brings out a range of powerful emotions from exhilaration to despair. Your feelings of love, happiness and pride may quickly turn to anger, hate or guilt, depending on the situation and the degree of support available to you. These feelings are completely normal. Most parents experience negative emotions from time to time.

Royal couple William and Kate take stand against bullying with nonprofit

Rather than registering at the typical stores, William and Kate have instead decided to create a network of 26 charities that guests and fans can donate to in their honor.


Sexual abuse of children is far more prevalent than most people realize. At least 25% of the adult population of this country has been molested as children. 25% of girls are molested before the age of 16. At least 27 million females are current or future adult survivors of child sexual abuse. Incest is the most common form of child abuse.

Help for a Friend or Family Member

If you know or suspect that a family member, friend or work colleague is experiencing domestic violence it may be difficult to know what to do.  Here are some tips that may help you.

Are You Being Stalked? Tips For Protection

Being stalked is a life changing process. Stalking victims are in a state of constant fear 24 hours a day. The ongoing nature of stalking can cause traumatic psychological damage to the victim.

12 Ways To Tell Whether Your Man May Turn Into An Abuser

12 Tips and warning signs of abuse and domestic violence.

Are You Abusing?

Not all men are abusive, how do you measure up?

Children Suffer 'Before Divorce'

DIVORCE is tough on children, but for some the hardest part may come before parents separate, according to a new study. The study, which followed more than 2,800 Canadian children from two-parent homes, found that those whose parents eventually divorced tended to show high levels of depression, anxiety and behavior problems in the years before the separation.

Children and Animals: Exploring the Roots of Kindness and Cruelty

Book Review:  This stunning new work—the crown jewel in a career Frank Ascione has devoted to demonstrating the importance of understanding animal abuse in a developmental context—now offers us just such an unprecedented opportunity.

Caught in the Crossfire: Children and Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: Through the Eyes of a Child


What Is Abuse?

Abuse in families can take many forms. It may be physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, or a combination of any or all of those. Neglect - when parents don't take care of the basic needs of the children who depend on them - can be a form of abuse.

Battered Women's Reports of Their Partners' and Their Children's Cruelty to Animals

ABSTRACT. Anecdotal reports of cruelty to pet animals in families where partner battering occurs are common but there exist few empirical data on this issue. Determining the forms and prevalence of such cruelty is important since abuse of pets may be a method batterers use to control their partners, may be related to batterers' lethality, and may result in children in such families being exposed to multiple forms of violence, a significant risk for mental health problems.

The Abuser

This section talks briefly about some traits and characteristics commonly displayed in an abuser. Although these traits do not apply to each and every single abuser, they do apply to a majority of them.